Man and woman friendship

mike — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 21:51:51 +0000

Do you have friends of the opposite sex? I consider myself quite a broad-minded person, who is open to build relationships that are not all about sex, but none of the friendships with the opposite sex survived long enough. What’s the matter?

I think that any relationships that involve individuals of the opposite sex always have an air of “that thing”. You cannot deny it. Like flirt is the same “light erotic turn-on” towards the object of your interest, friendship is a kind of latent sex attraction that one day will just find its way out. The only exception I see is in a situation where your friend has homosexual orientation.

Just think when we say this phrase: “Can we just be friends?” Right, when we know there is no chance for any sexual relationships with that person. No one actually expects to keep a friendship alive, as that is a best excuse not to hurt someone’s feelings.

As for the friendship itself, it’s hard to say there is nothing going on between two of you, when you obviously find each other to be a nice companion to share your thoughts and feelings. If you find that person sexually attractive, you unconsciously put your energy to get close to him. May be friendship is this very way to start something more intimate.
In fact does a friendship between men and women exist? As the old saying: men are from Mars and women are from Venus. We can have a lot of common interests and share tastes, but when facing each other we rarely find that much mutual thing unless we are attuned to. I am not sure whether my point of view is somewhat feminine, but no man will make me believe that his intentions are “far from sexual interests”. That interest may not manifest itself as a pure “get laid” thing, but it almost always have the element of sexual attraction which under happy circumstances will end up with the question: “What are you doing tonight?“

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Man and woman friendship